First of all, children are not afraid of going to the dentist because they have not had any bad experiences. You as a parent can make sure that stays that way!
Never speak of your own bad dental experience in front of your child. If your child is having difficulty brushing his teeth, you must not threaten the dentist, only toothache.
First, find a child-friendly dentist. Maybe other parents can recommend someone to you. A good address is also the university dental clinics, which usually offer a special consultation for children. Or look for a dentist from the Swiss Association for Pediatric Dentistry. Take precaution – not only if there is a problem.
The first examination is recommended by the Swiss Association for Pediatric Dentistry, 1.5 to 2 years old. At this age, a first “contact” with the dentist or the dental hygienist is made first – at this time a threatening infant caries can still be averted. Take your child by appointment just to own control appointment. At the latest from the first kindergarten year an annual check is necessary. From the first grade up regular bite wing shots (X-rays, in caries-free dentures every two years) are also recommended.
During the treatment, keep in touch with the child, give praise and name the devices with imaginative, child-friendly names. Pay attention to the words the dentist uses. A child-friendly dentist will have a lot of experience with which words he ideally describes the technical devices. The drill is then only half as bad. Do not say: “The dentist does not hurt you at all!” – Your child only hears the word “hurt” and is immediately alarmed and tense. Apart from that, nobody can ever speak for the sensations of others. Never promise total freedom from pain, but if you explain to the child that the “pick” is felt briefly, may be a bit uncomfortable, but also immediately gone, the child will be able to confirm this much sooner.
Make the dentist aware of any particularities of your child. An “advance warning” on the phone to the assistant, your child is rather shy or anxious in principle, can help the dentist to better adapt to your child.